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Love at First Swipe: A Tinder Success Story

On Valentine’s Day two years ago, my now boyfriend stood me up. I was dressed and waiting only to get no call and no text…but let’s not dwell on the negative. Instead, let me get right to the point. I met my boyfriend, Darius, on Tinder.

Most people find this shocking since the Tinder app is known as a playground for casual encounters rather than meaningful relationships.
Love at First Swipe: A Tinder Success Story

I remember when I first came across his profile. I wish I had saved the screenshot! He was wearing a beanie with long dreadlocks hanging underneath. He had on a Pink Panther shirt and was smiling wide with a plastic red cup in his hand. I showed my cousin the photo and she said, “Now that’s a face you could fall in love with.”

Needless to say, I swiped right and promptly found out that we were a match (meaning he had swiped right for me too). After a few witty exchanges via the app, we moved on to texting. Well, I would text him and he would send funny gifs in response. Even then he always found ways to make me laugh. We FaceTime’d one night and that’s when I knew I wanted to move forward and meet him in person for a date. I could sense that we would get along and have a good time.

Love at First Swipe: A Tinder Success Story

Our date was set for a Thursday night at a local spot that plays throwback hip-hop. Valentine’s Day was just a couple days prior. We had been texting non-stop and Darius mentioned how funny it would be to have a Tinder date on Valentine’s Day. We decided to hang out that night in addition to keeping our Thursday night date on the books.

As mentioned before, the Valentine’s Day date didn’t happen. He stood me up. The next day, Darius explained that he had family visiting from out of town and after showing them around the city all day, he came home to take a nap and ended up sleeping through the night. (A year later I met said family members who confirmed this story lol.) I could tell he felt really bad which is the only reason I gave him another chance after leaving me hanging. I’m so glad I did.

Love at First Swipe: A Tinder Success Story

Darius picked me up for our date on Thursday night. He was blasting the latest Rihanna album, Anti, which we later declared “our album” because we listened to it constantly. It was literally the soundtrack to our love in those early days. We rolled down the windows and sang the lyrics at the top of our lungs as we drove down the street towards the venue. Five minutes in, and I was already having a blast with him.

Once we got there, we stayed downstairs to order drinks and share some fries. He listened attentively as I gave him the details of my day. I remember feeling like I was just blabbering on and on, but he would not take his eye off of mine. He gave me his unwavering attention. The way Darius looked at me with such genuine interest was very telling of his character. I felt our connection beginning to take shape as we sat across from one another at that booth, sipping our drinks and gazing at one another.

Love at First Swipe: A Tinder Success Story

We finished our drinks, split the last fry in half, and went upstairs to the dancefloor. Old school hip hop, stylish millennials, and a few break-dancers filled the room. Darius held my hand for the first time as he led me onto the dance floor. We danced together for song after song.

At the very end of the night, the DJ diverged from his throwback playlist to play one last song of the night, Rihanna’s “Work.” I literally jumped up and down with excitement. As I mentioned, Darius and both loved this album and “Work” was the most popular song at the time. In the car on the way over I even said to him, “I guess since it’s throwback night we won’t get to dance to any Rihanna huh?” “I doubt it,” he replied. So as Rihanna’s anthem played, we danced a little closer. Perhaps this was a sign of the good luck we would have together.

Love at First Swipe: A Tinder Success Story

When the song was over, we went out to the patio for some fresh air. “What time is it?” I asked, trying to look at his watch. “Time for you to give me a kiss,” he said. I laughed and rolled my eyes at how cheesy his line was, then I stood on my tip-toes as we shared our first kiss. A colony of butterflies fluttered through my body. When he took me home, Darius hugged me tightly and lifted me into the air. As my feet dangled he said, “I can’t wait to see you again!”

We saw each other every day for the next four months. (Our streak was only broken when I had to babysit overnight.) Fast forward two years later. We now live together and have the most balanced, healthy relationship that either one of us has ever experienced (especially via Tinder!). I love cooking for him; he’ll eat anything I make which is nice. I often come home to find him sitting on the couch, folding my laundry (he even folds my underwear!). We kiss every morning and every night. When we get mad at each other, we go for a walk around the neighborhood to talk things out, or just to walk side by side in silence. We never go to bed angry.

Love at First Swipe: A Tinder Success Story

We still don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, and I still give him a hard time about standing me up two years ago. We do celebrate February 17th, the night of our first date, as our anniversary since that truly is the day our relationship began. It’s also why I chose to publish this story today.

I wish I knew the exact date that I swiped right, because that day holds so much significance for both of us as well. In a world full of shallow connections, I am so thankful to have experienced “love at first swipe,” and even more thankful to continue to experience our unique kind of love every single day since.

Love at First Swipe: A Tinder Success Story

Happy Anniversary, Darius. I love you!

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57 Comments

  1. Jocelyn Carey

    February 17, 2018 at 10:48 am

    Aww! 😊
    I remember you showing me his profile! Haha, 💖 you!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 17, 2018 at 11:22 am

      Back when we used to drink wine and swipe away!! Haha 😋

  2. Eric Newkirk

    February 17, 2018 at 1:13 pm

    First of all let me say this. Fantastic story and declaration of love in the midst of your journey. I have known your significant other sibce his youth. I affectionately call him Nephew. Thank you for your story of affirmation and love. It is clear he has a diamond. Continue to speak life into your relationship.

    1. D'Ana Joi

      May 23, 2018 at 12:05 pm

      Eric,

      Please forgive me. I thought I replied to your comment long ago! Thank you so much for your kind words and well wishes. Over two years later and Darius and I are more in love than ever. I am so thankful for the blessing that he is to my life.

  3. Eric Newkirk

    February 17, 2018 at 1:15 pm

    First of all let me say this. Fantastic story and declaration of love in the midst of your journey. I have known your significant other since his youth. I affectionately call him Nephew. Thank you for your story of affirmation and love. It is clear he has a diamond. Continue to speak life into your relationship.

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 17, 2018 at 2:19 pm

      Hi Eric,

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and leave such kind words. Your nephew is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I will affirm our love every chance that I get. Thanks again!

  4. Becoming His Tapestry

    February 17, 2018 at 2:28 pm

    Sounds like a beautiful relationship, may the Lord bless you 😃

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 17, 2018 at 2:33 pm

      Thank you very much! 🙂

  5. Teri

    February 17, 2018 at 2:38 pm

    The romantic in me is all over this! Beautiful start to a beautiful story. Enjoy the journey!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 17, 2018 at 2:49 pm

      Thank you Teri!!

  6. Daisha

    February 17, 2018 at 6:15 pm

    Yes to love. Yes to black love. Yes to healthy honest love. Yes to a love like this. I remember you first talking about him. You were cheesing soooo hard. He’s a beautiful man and you a beautiful woman. So happy to know and love you both. Xoxo

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 17, 2018 at 6:32 pm

      Aw thanks Daisha! I’ll need you to repeat this as a speech at our wedding one day. Please and thank you! 😋♥️

  7. Erica Soverall Nisbett

    February 17, 2018 at 8:16 pm

    WOW…what a story. First, thank you for loving my “nephew”. I have known Darius since he was in high school when I would come to MD to visit my sister and her family. I met Darius through my nieces and he has been my nephew and me his Aunty Ricky for 20 years now. When he moved to CA I was worried that he would be far away from family and not have any support. But, he grew up and flourished in CA. I have always been proud of the man he became and the man he is still becoming. I am grateful he met you and you all complete each other. I will pray for you both. Continue to affirm and love each other, but remember to like and respect each other, because without like there is no love. I have never met you D’Ana Joi but I love you now because he loves you and you love him and that’s good enough for me. Take care of each other and I hope to meet you soon.

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 23, 2018 at 6:21 pm

      I Erica! Thank you so much for your kind words and well wishes. Darius is one of the greatest lessons this life has offered me and I intend to celebrate our love as often as possible. I hope to meet you as well! xo

  8. cravejadeblog

    February 18, 2018 at 2:39 am

    Ohhh myyy God!! I kept on smiling through out like I was reading my love story (I’m still very single) Happy Anniversary Joi❤️ May your love flourish forever!💖💖

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 18, 2018 at 8:00 am

      Aw thank you so much for your well wishes. I had no idea how much our story would touch people when I wrote this. I don’t usually share my personal life too much but our story is too unique to go unwritten. Thanks again for reading! Xo ♥️

  9. Bree

    February 18, 2018 at 2:56 am

    This is sooooo cute! Even though I already remembered most of it from you telling me as I was doing your hair. I was so in shock that you guys had met on tinder and I remember you telling me how you guys both just deleted the app after meeting. So happy for you!!!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 18, 2018 at 8:02 am

      Aww yesss I remember that he was all I could talk about at that time because we had JUST met! It’s crazy how when you meet the right person you just “know.” And yes pretty funny that we met via Tender. Ps. I miss you and my hair misses you bc I don’t trust anyone else to do it! Haha xoxo

  10. Kerry Oden-Bryant

    February 18, 2018 at 11:53 am

    I remember him telling me about you, that I’d love you and being anxious to bring you over. He was right! I love you. I love you both especially ypu 2 together. Thanks for sharing your story.

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 18, 2018 at 2:51 pm

      Aunt Kerry!!! Thanks so much for reading. We love you guys and can’t wait to come visit (and cook for you) soon.

  11. Donnell

    February 18, 2018 at 8:55 pm

    This is what makes a father who loves and cares for his daughter smile within. I’m so happy you’re happy, with someone I actually like. 😉😀
    May God bless you with a beautiful life of love and commitment together. 🙏🏾

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 18, 2018 at 9:10 pm

      Aw thanks for reading this Daddy, and I’m happy you like him too!

  12. chauncea

    February 18, 2018 at 9:53 pm

    I’ve heard such amazing things about you two through Eric! Happy Anniversary Love Birds!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 18, 2018 at 10:01 pm

      Aw thanks so much, Chauncea!

  13. Chauncea

    February 18, 2018 at 9:55 pm

    I’ve heard such amazing things about you two through Eric! Happy Anniversary Love Birds!

  14. D I A R I E S OF A DRUG WORKER

    February 19, 2018 at 12:24 pm

    This was so lovely to read. You clearly adore him! Happy anniversary to you both X

  15. The Blissful Nomad

    February 19, 2018 at 12:49 pm

    This is beautful. Thank you for sharing this with us. That first date sounds like it was the perfect first date. Sounds like you have your best friend and lover rolled into one. Flashes of beautiful language in there. Congratulations to you both.

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 19, 2018 at 12:54 pm

      I so appreciate you taking the time to read! And thank you for the note re: beautiful language. Every writer hopes for that compliant. 🙂 xo

      1. The Blissful Nomad

        February 19, 2018 at 1:16 pm

        I appreciate good writing, and I know its a skill and credit is offered where credit is due.

  16. Carol J Forrester

    February 19, 2018 at 2:14 pm

    Sounds like a wonderful first date and how great that it morphed into such a balanced relationship by the sound of it.

  17. lucicoo

    February 20, 2018 at 1:43 pm

    This is the second story that a couple has found success on an app to find someone. I might have to check this out.

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 20, 2018 at 5:08 pm

      You really never know where love will find you! At the very least, I think it’s good to be open to many different avenues. xo

  18. Georgina Dukes

    February 21, 2018 at 10:17 am

    I love this! Online dating gets such a bad rap at times but you give many hope of finding a beautiful thing which is love on these dating platforms!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 21, 2018 at 10:21 am

      Hey Georgina,

      Thanks for reading! Most people are surprised when you find real love on an app like Tinder. But it’s totally possible! 🙂

  19. Hadassah

    February 21, 2018 at 10:25 pm

    Yasss i am 100% here for this!!! Online dating is great. Let us know when you guys get engaged and married! So happy for you both #blacklove

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 21, 2018 at 10:37 pm

      Hey Hadassah,

      Thanks so much!! I most definitely will update once we’re engaged! Hehe love that thought. ♥️

  20. Kareem Trini Edwards

    February 26, 2018 at 10:07 pm

    What a lovely story. I know you guys but didn’t know how special your connection was. You guys are an inspiration to aspiring lovers. Stay strong, for all of us……

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 26, 2018 at 10:31 pm

      Hey Kareem! Thanks so much for reading. Yeah, we love each other every day in the smallest ways and I think that’s what makes what we have so meaningful. Thank you for your kind words!!

  21. lcdorkin

    February 27, 2018 at 12:34 pm

    Lol what a cute story!! Cant believe he stood you up and then you still ended up working out. Tinder gets so much flack but this is like the 5th successful story I’ve heard from Tinder matches! One of my best friends actually got married two years ago and they met on Tinder too!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 27, 2018 at 12:37 pm

      Yeah, I could tell he wasn’t the flakey type. Otherwise I would not have tried again! Haha I can’t wait to get to the part of our story where we end up married. I don’t think it matters where you meet your perfect match, the Universe has a way of making things happen! Xo thanks for reading.

  22. Brenda Marie

    February 27, 2018 at 2:07 pm

    This story is so adorable!!! I’m so afraid to utilize dating apps and this restored some of my faith. You both make a beautiful couple! 🙌🏾💕

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 27, 2018 at 5:59 pm

      Aw, I know…dating apps can be so intimidating. I think if you go into it knowing what you want but still keeping a playful energy about you…amazing things can happen! If it can happen for me, it can happen for anyone. 🙂 thanks for reading! Xo

  23. Syd

    February 27, 2018 at 4:26 pm

    This is so sweet! My boyfriend and I met when he slid in my DMs on Twitter so I’m a fan of social media love

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 27, 2018 at 5:59 pm

      Hey Syd,

      Haha that’s so dope! It doesn’t really matter HOW you meet, the universe won’t keep someone away who is meant for you. Xo

  24. blackgirlwhitewine

    February 27, 2018 at 5:46 pm

    I smiled the entire time I read this post! You guys make a beautiful couple and clearly share a beautiful love <3

    1. D'Ana Joi

      February 27, 2018 at 6:00 pm

      Hey girl! Aw that makes me smile too! Thank you for reading. ♥️

  25. Courtney Stewart

    February 27, 2018 at 7:25 pm

    What a beautiful love story! You and Darius look so beautiful and happy together! It’s very refreshing to see how the love you two have for each other came to fruition. Thank you so much for sharing!

    -Courtney
    http://www.thecurlyanomaly.com

  26. Grace

    February 27, 2018 at 9:42 pm

    Your story about you and your boyfriend is adorable 🙂 Tinder is seen as such a casual place for hook ups but I think it really depends on who you talk to and being at the right place at the right time! I met my boyfriend on there too and we’ve been dating for almost 2 and a half years.

  27. Kelsee Hankins (@kelsee422)

    March 2, 2018 at 9:51 am

    This is super sweet! Thanks for sharing it with me!

  28. theunspokentestimony

    March 7, 2018 at 2:59 pm

    You two look great together 😍 And haha guys I tell ya! But that so sweet how much love and chemistry you have for each other. You know you’ve found the one when you have peace!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      March 8, 2018 at 6:54 am

      Aw thanks so much! I totally agree about feeling a sense of peace. We are very grateful. ♥️ thanks for reading!!

  29. Gwen

    March 11, 2018 at 7:35 am

    What a beautiful love story and couple!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      March 12, 2018 at 9:06 am

      Thank you Gwen!

  30. AlexisMarie

    April 2, 2018 at 6:33 pm

    You guys are so cute! I personally haven’t had the best luck on tinder (you can check out my first tinder date blog #shamelessselfpromo), but here you both are looking happy as ever! Congrats!

    1. D'Ana Joi

      April 4, 2018 at 7:08 am

      Hey Alexis,

      It’s definitely hit or miss when it comes to Tinder. Your blog sounds interesting, I’ll definitely check it out! Thank you for the well wishes. Xo

      1. AlexisMarie

        April 4, 2018 at 7:10 am

        Thanks!!! ✨✨

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