How to be a Better Home Cook using the P.R.I.M.E method

How to be a Better Home Cook using the P.R.I.M.E method

Wondering why I started this blog? As a multi-passionate creative, I used to be plagued by the idea that success meant choosing one thing and sticking with it. The problem was choosing just “one thing” left me unable to show up in the world as my most authentic, full self. One day I woke up and decided to finally embrace and share all of my gifts. My next thought: I should start a blog as a space for my passions to play. I never looked back after that moment. 

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I’ll admit, cooking is something that comes rather naturally for me and I really do enjoy it. While working as a nanny, I was responsible for feeding a family of four every night. I learned to be organized and efficient when cooking at work, then I would go home and do it all over again at my house (with a glass of wine). Many people just assume that they are not good cooks because they don’t have the methods they need to create a sense of calm in the kitchen.

IMG_9643 copyP.R.I.M.E is my recipe for better home cooking that I hope will give you the confidence you need to feel good in the kitchen. Let’s get into it!

PPick a recipe that is approachable.

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This first step goes back to my suggestion to make nice with cookbooks. Many home cooks set themselves up for failure by picking a recipe that is out of their league. There are so many fabulous books out there that are sure to appeal to you, no matter your skill level. If you’re new to cooking, a beginner’s cookbook such as The Can’t Cook Book is a great place to start. If you’re more adventurous and seeking to expand your palate, go for a book like Danny Seo’s Naturally Delicious. Either way, be honest with yourself and what you’re up for.

Picking a cookbook

If you have a feeling a dread when looking at an ingredient list, move on. The recipe that is right for you should give you a sense of excitement, not terror. Start small and work your way up to more complex cooking techniques. This is step number one and it is the most important of them all. Pick a recipe that suits your skill level. (If you want to see my cookbook recommendations, click here.)

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*For this post I chose to make “Minty Sugar Snaps” from The Can’t Cook Book.

RRead and read again.

Once you have chosen a recipe that is appropriate for your level of skill, read it through at least twice and envision yourself going through the steps. When a recipe is only glanced at once, there is more likelihood that you will forget an ingredient, accidentally skip crucial steps, and be left with a frantic feeling.

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Knowing that you will be butterflying the chicken breast, prepping a sauce, and need to make a marinade that rests for 24 hours, are examples of things you need to know before you begin cooking, not once the cooking has already begun.

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Studying the recipe lays a foundation for the magic that is about to be made in your kitchen. Read the recipe, then read it again, then read once more. Trust me, it helps so much.

I: Ingredients as listed.

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Ingredients should be used exactly as they are presented in the recipe—no substitutions.

Okay, hear me out. When I say use the exact ingredients in this third step, I am not talking about those of us who need to make changes due to dietary restrictions. For example, because I am lactose intolerant and can only digest goat dairy, any recipe that calls for cheese/yogurt, in my case, goat products are used. These types of substitutions are okay. I am not suggesting that you use any ingredient to which you have a negative reaction. What I am saying is that the very first time you attempt a recipe, it is best to cook it exactly as intended (or as close as possible).

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This step also applies to the measurements of said ingredients. If you are a seasoned cook, you may be able to eyeball two tablespoons of olive oil, but for all my novices out there, make good use of your measuring tools and be precise. When you follow a recipe exactly as it is written, you will have a strong sense of accomplishment from knowing what the author had in mind when they created the dish. In other words, you’ll be able to shout, “nailed it!” across the kitchen.

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Another reason to stick closely to the ingredient list is so that you can make changes down the line. If you think the shrimp was too lemon-y, exclude the lemon next time, or use less. Want more of a kick to your chili? Double the cayenne. Making changes after you have tasted the original recipe helps with understanding the layering of flavors more intimately. Let the recipe get you started and go from there. Especially for beginner cooks, ingredients as listed, is step three. Are you still with me? Good. Only two steps left to better home cooking! 

M: Mise en Place or Everything in it’s place.

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Mise en Place is a French term for “Everything in it’s place.” The term is used in professional kitchens around the world, and for good reason. As you prepare to cook, it is essential that you gather all the ingredients and tools necessary for the recipe (as well as prep the ingredients). This includes food items, spices, measuring spoons/cup, pots, pans etc. Having everything set up “in it’s place” before you, makes carrying out the recipe much, much, easier.

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If you skip this crucial step you are likely to be running around your kitchen grabbing a knife here, a whisk there. Oh shoot! Gotta fill that pot with water, the noodles are done already?! Where is the strainer??? You get the idea. Mise en Place frees you from that hectic rush around the kitchen and ensures a more tranquil cooking experience.

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Mise en place also means being your own sue-chef. Once you have your ingredients laid out in front of you, take a look at the recipe again. If it calls for minced garlic or chopped onions, get to mincing and chopping before you start cooking. This fourth step is a game changer. Everything in its place; mise en place.

E: Embrace and Enjoy the Experience

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When you follow all the above steps, this last one is likely to be a natural occurrence, but I want to encourage you anyway: No matter your level of skill, embrace the process of cooking. Do your best to be present and cook with all of your senses: Listen to the mushrooms singing as they cook (seriously, they do). Wait for that moment when the sizzling onions release their aroma into the air, then inhale deeply. If it helps, create a playlist, or listen to a thoughtful podcast while you cook.

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Do whatever it takes to enjoy the moment. If you have kids tugging at you while you cook, embrace that too— give them an easy task so that they can be involved (Time for Dinner has some great ideas for this). Light a candle or incense near the kitchen. Pour yourself a glass of wine or sparkling water to sip as you prep your meal.

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Enjoy knowing that cooking at home means you are nourishing yourself, and perhaps others. Even if you have had trouble with cooking in the past, that’s okay. Start fresh each time you approach a new recipe and allow yourself to have a new, more enjoyable experience.

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So there you have it: P.R.I.M.E My five steps to becoming a better home cook. I hope these easy tips help make your cooking experience more joyful.


PPick a recipe that is approachable for your level of skill.

RRead the recipe through at least twice before you begin.

I–  Ingredients as listed (making exceptions for dietary restrictions only).

MMise en Place. Everything in it’s place, ingredients prepped and ready to go.

EEmbrace and Enjoy the experience by being present and using your senses.

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If you have specific questions about your home-cooking experience, please don’t hesitate to get in touch or leave a comment below. Thanks for reading and happy cooking!

xo, Joi

Photographer: Donnell Spencer Jr.

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  1. Spenser Micheals

    July 18th, 2017 at 1:55 am

    I love love it!!! So proud of you. Now I’m seriously ready to start cooking thanks to you. 😊The photos are beautiful too.

  2. Joi-Knows-How

    July 18th, 2017 at 4:34 am

    Thank you so much!!! So happy this was helpful. 🙂

  3. Nysa Shenay

    July 18th, 2017 at 5:58 am

    I love the concept of P.R.I.M.E.
    Well written. Totally understandable. And the photography is impeccable!! It takes TEAMWORK to make a DREAM WORK!! Thank you for this Ms Joi!!!
    I’m subscribing now!!

  4. Joi-Knows-How

    July 18th, 2017 at 7:52 am

    Hi Nysa!! Thank you so much for taking the time to read. 🙂 It was awesome having my pops behind the camera to help bring my vision into focus.

    Thank you for subscribing!

  5. Dieter

    July 18th, 2017 at 11:45 am

    High Quality made, wow amazing and absolute top. I love your work Also nice your Gin Shelf book holder 🙂

  6. Joi-Knows-How

    July 18th, 2017 at 2:57 pm

    Thanks so much, Dieter! I’m thinking of doing a blog post on how to create that gin bottle plant holder, what do you think? 🙂

  7. Jessica

    July 18th, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    These pictures are adorable! I am always taking on recipes that are too complex for me or so easy that I forget to really read it through. Great reminders!

  8. Joi-Knows-How

    July 18th, 2017 at 6:22 pm

    Thanks, Jessica! Both are such common mistakes. I hope you find the P.R.I.M.E method helpful! Xo

  9. Julia Elizabeth

    July 18th, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Love the PRIME steps and your photos <3 Can't wait to have a kitchen of my own to get creative with cooking 🙂

  10. Joi-Knows-How

    July 18th, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    Thanks so much, Julia! I hope these tips will come in handy when you’re ready. Xo

  11. Angela

    July 18th, 2017 at 11:09 pm

    This was such a great read and the pics are amazing! I’ve been cooking consistently for the past 2 years and am really starting to enjoy it. I typically skip right through the “M” and find myself all over the kitchen grabbing ingredients (that I just know I have)! 🙂

  12. Joi-Knows-How

    July 18th, 2017 at 11:16 pm

    Hi Angela, sounds like step 3 may be the missing part of your cooking puzzle. It seriously helps sooo much to have everything set up before you get started. Happy to help! Xo

  13. yolondaskitchen

    July 19th, 2017 at 2:52 am

    First – Your pictures are lovely! I think your advice is spot on and I love the way you have it broken down into steps. My favorite, by far, is your last step: enjoying the process and being present in the moment.

  14. Joi-Knows-How

    July 19th, 2017 at 5:45 am

    Hi Yolanda! Thanks so much. My father took the pictures, he’s super talented and very supportive of my blog 🙂 THe last step is, without a doubt, the most important. Thanks for reading. Cheers!

  15. Donnell Spencer Jr.

    July 19th, 2017 at 10:23 pm

    D’Ana, it makes me smile to see your vision Come alive!
    This is very well written and informative! Glad I am able to help deliver beautiful photographs to align with your blogs. Keep dreaming and I love you and every creative bone in your body! 😊✨❤️

  16. Joi-Knows-How

    July 20th, 2017 at 1:19 am

    Hi Daddy!! Thanks so much. You really helped my vision come to life and I’m so thankful. Can’t wait for more collaborations! Love you so much.

  17. Terri Rock

    July 20th, 2017 at 9:49 pm

    D’Ana, I love the look of your Blog, it’s so inviting! So does grandma Anita and grandpa Willie. Thanks for sharing your PRIME tips and the Minty Snap Peas recipe. I would never think to combine mint with snap peas, neither do I have the time or same desire to look at cookbooks from cover to cover. So, it’s great that you shared this recipe, I’ll give it a try. Keep up the blog posts!

  18. Joi-Knows-How

    July 20th, 2017 at 11:33 pm

    Thanks Mommy!!! Give Grandma and Grandpa a big hug from me. Love you guys.

  19. Mary Beth Whalum

    July 21st, 2017 at 1:39 pm

    Joi, this was REALLY good stuff – LOVE the P. R. I. M. E. approach for two reasons: its practicality, and its marketability. From a marketing perspective, it’s a really smart gimmick! Kudos to you and I wish you the very best!

  20. Joi-Knows-How

    July 21st, 2017 at 2:58 pm

    Mary, thank you oh so much. Want to know a little secret? It was my boyfriend who thought creating an acronym would be a good idea! Good thing I was willing to be flexible and listen. The letters came to me easy once I had decided to create the acronym. Best bf ever right? Lol. Thanks so much for reading.

  21. Jaqueline

    July 24th, 2017 at 8:10 pm

    Your blog is amazing I think that your idease are very creative, Miss D’ana. I used to be one of your mom’s students (2016-2017). Please tell Mrs.Rock that I miss her so much and I miss you being a helper a our school. xoxo-Jaqueline

  22. Joi-Knows-How

    July 25th, 2017 at 6:53 am

    Hi Jaqueline! I’m so happy that you are continuing to read my blog. It means so much to me. I will tell my mom you say hello and I know she misses you and her other students as well. I’m so glad I was able to come and spend time in her class and help you all with a few lessons.

    I hope you’re having an amazing summer!

    xoxo 🙂

  23. Jaqueline

    July 24th, 2017 at 8:12 pm

    Lol autocorrect I meant ideas sorry about that.

  24. ThingsHelenLoves

    July 25th, 2017 at 8:21 am

    Such a great post, I wish I had this when I packed my daughter off to Uni last year! Although I made sure she had a handful of basic recipes down pat before she left, I know cooking in a new kitchen without mum on hand was a bit daunting. Looking forward to browsing your lovely blog.


  25. Joi-Knows-How

    July 25th, 2017 at 1:49 pm

    Hi Helen,

    Thanks so much! Not to late to forward the link over to your daughter. 🙂 I kept beginner cooks in mind when building the steps. Thanks again for checking it out and for the feedback.

  26. BMhuddleston

    July 30th, 2017 at 3:55 am

    Yes, just YES!! I feel so much more confident to get down in the kitchen!! Thanks for giving me tips to boost my cooking confidence!!

  27. Joi-Knows-How

    July 30th, 2017 at 7:12 am

    That’s what I love to hear!! Glad to help and happy cooking. 🙂

  28. Loice

    July 30th, 2017 at 5:42 pm

    Great way to break it down and make it less overwhelming. Loving the vibrant colors on your blog!

  29. Joi-Knows-How

    July 30th, 2017 at 7:07 pm

    Thanks Loice! 🙂

  30. Hannah (BitterSweet)

    July 31st, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    Truly smart, inspiring suggestions! I’ll have to refer new and hesitant cooks back to this post. You’ve made it all so approachable and unintimidating, I think that everyone could benefit from this advice.

  31. Joi-Knows-How

    August 1st, 2017 at 12:07 am

    Hi Hannah, thanks so much! I wanted to be sure to keep it simple so that cooks of all levels could apply these tips. Appreciate your comment! 🙂

  32. Mimi Desir

    January 22nd, 2018 at 4:08 pm

    I LOVE YOUR PICTURES! I have never heard of the Prime method. My son is interested in cooking at his young age. I will definitely share this with him. Instead of me telling him what to do, I will have him read the recipes, write them down, arrange them, and follow. Definitely will have him embrace his hard work once finished. I love this post! Thanks for sharing it!

  33. D'Ana Joi

    January 22nd, 2018 at 4:10 pm

    Hey Mimi! Thanks so much for reading. The PRIME method is something I came up with on my own. I hope your son will find these tips useful! 🙂

  34. D'Ana Joi

    January 22nd, 2018 at 4:11 pm

    And thank you re: pictures. 🙂

  35. Bree

    February 18th, 2018 at 3:12 am

    Oooh how I love you! And your blog lol. Definitely going to start doing the everything in place thing LOL

  36. D'Ana Joi

    February 18th, 2018 at 7:58 am

    Hi Bree!!! Yes girl the Mis en Place is a major game changer. Thanks for stopping by! Xoxo

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